I have been reading Hints of Child Training and found it very helpful. Our home group, which is made up mainly of parents with young children, is reading it together. I thought it would be helpful to you all if I summarized and gave excerpts from the book. I hope you find them to be beneficial as you strive to train up your children in the way they should go (Prov. 22:6).
The difference between teaching and training:
"It has been said that the essence of teaching is causing another to know. It may similarly be said that the essence of training is causing another to do. Teaching gives knowledge. Training gives skill. Teaching fills the mind. Training shapes the habits. Teaching brings to the child that which he did not have before. Training enables a child to make use of that which is already his possession. We teach a child the meaning of words. We train a child in speaking and walking. We teach him the truths which we have learned for ourselves. We train him in habits of study, that he may be able to learn other truths for himself. Training and teaching must go on together in the wise upbringing of any and every child…. He who knows how to teach a child, is not competent for the oversight of a child's education unless he also knows how to train a child.
"Training is a possibility long before teaching is. Before a child is old enough to know what is said to it, it is capable of feeling, and of conforming to, or of resisting, the pressure of efforts for its training…. [T]he training of children is begun much earlier than their teaching….
"Child training properly begins at a child's birth, but it does not properly end there…. Child training goes on as long as a child is a child…. Child training affects a child's sleeping and waking, his laughing and crying, his eating and drinking, his looks and his movements, his self-control and his conduct toward others. Child training does not change a child's nature, but it does change his modes of giving expression to his nature…."